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When You Need Your Soul Sisters…

June 24th, 2014 | 2 comments

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You feel uninspired, unmotivated and alone.


To hell with your goals.  Who were you to think that you could ever have that body/lifestyle/boyfriend/business.  It’s just too hard.  No body else feels like this.  I’m a failure.  I’m not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough, talented enough, blah blah blah…


You wallow through the muddy lakes of self-doubt, armor yourself with fear, and hide the shakiness of your inner voice.


Sound familiar????  It’s hard work housing all those worries, fears and self-doubt gremlins in your head, while plastering a “everything is great” smile on your face all day.  It’s stressful and exhausting….so why do we do it to ourselves??  Emotions are part of the intricate human experience, and that means all of them…the good, the bad and the ugly.  I’m writing this post to inspire you if you are feeling in a bit of a funk, and to remind you of the importance of the women in your life.


The inspiration for this post came to me yesterday, which happened to be the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year.  It’s a great time to do a little re-evaluation of where you are in your life, to identify what you need to let go and to set clear intentions for the path ahead.  I was lucky enough to be able to do this in a beautiful Shamanic ceremony with a room full of other gorgeous entrepreneurial soul-sisters.  With candle light, stories, dancing, drumming, sage burning, art, flowers, organic juices and delectable foods…the setting couldn’t have been more perfect.


We wrote down what we want to release that is no longer serving us in our lives, and burned these in a fire during ceremony. We then set clear intentions about what we want to manifest.


Looking around the circle at all of the gorgeous faces, I felt a warm glow of gratitude to be a part of such a powerful ceremony and to be in the company of all these woman and my soul-sisters who desire to fulfill their potential, to heal the world, and support & hold each other in the process.


Something powerful happened to me that night. 


I slept deeply for 10 hours, and when I awoke I felt as if something had been released…something had shifted.  I soaked up the morning winter sun on my face, dusted off my journal, and started writing again.  I felt inspired, motivated and passionate about my work and my message.  I felt like a little fire in my belly had been re-ignited!


The most important thing I realised after this weekend, is that I couldn’t walk this path without my posse of awesome lady friends!  My soul-sisters who are there to mirror my greatness, hold me accountable, support me through the doubts and fears, and celebrate my wins.  I realise when I am with these woman I surrender to being vulnerable.  I am cracked open, and often that isn’t so comfortable.  But I know it’s part of the growth.  I see their power and strength and they show me mine.  After a couple of months of feeling uninspired and doubtful about my message and my work, I feel as though I’ve come back home to myself.  Boom!


Soul Sister Circle - Winter Solstice

So….if you’re feeling in a little bit of a funk, get together a posse of woman who seriously believe in you and your dreams.  Woman who you know will hold you, support you, and mirror your greatness.  And if you don’t, then start looking!!  Join woman’s groups, dance classes, hiking groups, social meet-ups…there are so many opportunities to meet these woman, you just need to get out of your comfort zone and start looking.


Life can feel so lonely sometimes, even amongst all the busyness.  There is something powerful and magical about knowing you are supported, and that other people share the same struggles.  This thing called life is not supposed to be done alone.  Promise me you will call on your soul-sisters more often…I know I will be!


Ngaire xox


What about YOU???

  • What are the things that YOU need to release that are no longer serving you?
  • What are your intentions moving forward?


My intentions:  To ground myself, to own my power, to let go of the fear and self-doubt, and embrace my voice and my message.

2 people have commented
  1. Keri says:

    Love this Ngaire!
    I’d be absolutely lost without my posse of goddesses to share meals and stories the fun stuff and the tricky stuff. One weekly thing we always do is goddess breakfast club. Would be lush to have you along! It’s cool to mark these occasions in the year with rituals, a great op to check in. Thanks for sharing xx

    • ngaire stephenson says:

      Thanks Keri 🙂 I would love to come along, it’s always great to connect with new ladies, especially as I am still new to this area!! Let me know when you are next meeting 🙂 xx

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Hi! My name is Ngaire, owner of Whole Lot a Health. I'm a Accredited Exercise Physiologist, Nutritionist, and Clinical Pilates teacher, with a passion to empower woman to living a ripe & fertile life; rich with energy, abundance & opportunity.  Health is wealth!

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